It’s not: Why don’t I have more auditions? Why didn’t they buy my screenplay? Why aren’t I further along?
Quite the contrary.
Unconditional self-love is accepting whatever is going on within you without trying to change it, alter it, make it go away or tell yourself “I shouldn’t be feeling this way.”
When you are about to beat yourself up for __________ (insert your favorite reason here: not being further along, not being more positive, not booking the job etc.) you are putting a condition on how much you choose to love yourself in this moment.
The #1 Question To Ask To Transform Your Life + Career:
Ask yourself: Is this choice guided by love?
Is beating myself up guided by love? No.
Is getting mad at myself for not being further along guided by love? No.
Is berating myself for not feeling better right now guided by love? No.
When you allow ALL of your feelings to be heard, + accepted, they will not fight you for airtime.
When you can allow your own suffering during the down times to have a voice, then self-compassion naturally arises.
In fact, by definition, compassion means to be with (com) suffering (pati).
When you can simply be with your own suffering without judgment, blame, shame or pushing it away, you will be exercising self-compassion – a choice that is always guided by love.
This is why RESISTING feeling “bad” feels so bad. You are simply not accepting a part of you that needs to be expressed.
So, while you are riding the emotional ups + downs of the roller coaster ride that is your career in the entertainment business on any given week, remind yourself that you have a choice in every moment, and you can choose a reaction (to yourself + others) that is guided by love.
Here’s to a week of loving yourself, no matter how many meetings you have (or don’t have), or screenplays you sell (or don’t sell).
Either way, you are still amazing.
Love + Gratitude,
~Wendy Braun
P.S. My latest guided meditation, I Am Amazing will help you take the guesswork out of how to effectively practice unconditional self-love + bust through what has been holding you back.
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