Conditions of worth are guidelines that define our value as a human. We all have them. Whether they’re conscious or not, they’re there. These conditions began weaving their way into our self-identity as our young eyes were taking in the world around us, and our comprehension of the way things are developed. As a kid, we didn’t get to define these conditions of worth. When a parent said, “be a good girl and eat your peas”, we learned that if I eat my peas, then I am good. Maybe it wasn’t as blatant. Kids pick up on subtle energies and…
Author: Jasmin Bristow
Jasmin Bristow
Jasmin is a mindfulness and wellness coach, dancer and healing artist. Hailing from Australia, Jasmin was a ballet dancer in Europe before enjoying a short but successful career in software development. For over 10 years, Jasmin has studied personal development, meditation, relationship therapies, fitness and nutrition. The calling became undeniable and she now spends as much time as possible facilitating workshops, mentoring and giving back. Jasmin is a self-confessed Tree-Hugger and foodie, gluten-free (not by choice). Giver her cups of tea for hugs.
Wanna do a fun little activity?!? Grab a pen… Make two columns… In the first column, write down 5 traits you like about yourself, things you’re good at, things you consider to be strengths. In the second column, write down 5 traits that you don’t particularly like about yourself. Do you notice anything about what you’ve written? Maybe about how the two columns relate to each other? It’s likely that your strengths and pain-points are more closely related than you might have realized. Think of it this way: our pain-points are just our strengths turned way up. That wonderfully sensitive,…
That feeling when… you f*ck up royally. And I mean, mess up in a way that feels bad. Really bad. If you’re daring to take any kind of risk in life, chances are you’re going to mess up. And chances are, that at some point you’re going to experience shame. Shame: the intensely painful feeling or experience of believing that we are flawed and therefore unworthy of love and belonging (as defined by Brene Brown). So, what are the circumstances that push us into feeling shame? Anything that unleashes that voice in your head, the one that rears up when…
This one goes out to all the busy ones, with love. I once had a browser tab open on my phone for over 12 months. I just couldn’t find the time to read it. What was the tab? An article called The Disease of Being Busy. Yeaaaahhh. Clearly, I needed to read it. Yet more than 12 months went by in which I couldn’t find 10 minutes to sit down and read it. When you think about being busy what other words come to mind? Stressed, frazzled, tense, overwhelmed, perhaps? Several years back I was working 80+ hours a week,…
We’re all excited to get the presses rolling again here at Ms. In The Biz HQ – and by HQ I mean this awesome virtual community! When the opportunity presented itself to get back to this regular writing gig, I jumped at the chance. I love writing. I love this community. I love all things wellness and self-care (my area of expertise). Of course I wanted to be involved. Cue my reliable little brain… “Hey, maybe you’ve already got too much on your plate”. “Maybe you’re over-committing yourself?” “Maybe you’ll let people down and not be able to meet your…
Whether you’re an introvert or an extrovert, knowing how to relate to the unique qualities of an introvert can improve relationships, make collaborative projects more cohesive, and make you a better team player. Introverts face some unique challenges in this industry. I have introvert friends who’ve shared some of their stories and I have some personal experience. For I, too, am an introvert (though, a strange kind of introvert that can actually thrive in social situations). Many people in the “real world” (aka not in the entertainment industry) think that all actors must be extroverted, camera-loving artists-of-shine. But it’s simply…
Feeling Stuck I’m sure most of us have experienced it at some point. Feeling stuck creatively. Staring at a blank page, or a set of sides not knowing where to go with it. Symptoms may include; procrastination, distraction, suddenly needing to do laundry, or eat, yeah, you’re really hungry now, better go eat. And, huh, this desk really is messy, I should organize it right now. If you’re anything like me, that procrastination may lead to other unsupportive thoughts. A few of my favorites are, “Is anyone even going to read/watch this?” and “I really don’t think I have anything…
If you’re reading this article, chances are you’re an actor, writer, or a creator of some (probably multi-hyphenate) description. And since you’re here on the Ms In The Biz site, I’m going to hazard a guess that you’re some mix of ambitious go-getter, make-it-happen gal or guy, always seeking more. Whether you’ve acknowledged it or not, you’re almost certainly an entrepreneur – at the least, you’re undeniably a creative business owner, a brand and a commodity. And as a seeker, you want more because that’s part of being an creative entrepreneur; having a burning desire and passion to succeed. Curiosity…
Doesn’t it sound so wonderfully glamorous? When someone says, “I split my time between New York and Los Angeles”, visions of a trendy artist pad in Tribeca and a beach house in Santa Monica float to mind. And it’s true, it could be a very glamorous life… if you have the funds to sustain it. There are many ways the bi-coastal thing can look. With the volume of production taking place outside of Los Angeles ever increasing, many people in the entertainment industry are just going where the work is. If you’re fantasizing about doing the bi-coastal thing, here’s a…
Six. I’m about six boxes… plus a suitcase. That’s it. “My life”, the large majority of my possessions fit into six boxes. Everything I own, from a make-up brush, to some decorative cushions to my sentimental keepsake box. In general I’ve gotten pretty good at being a minimalist. As I sit here, surrounded by boxes, in our gorgeous little sub-let in Harlem, New York City, I’m filled with mixed emotions about leaving. Yep, that’s right, L.A, we’re coming back! AJ (my gentleman love) and I moved here in February 2014, when AJ booked a huge off-Broadway show. At the time…
Warning: This article about to get real up in this place… I read an article recently on the blog MindBodyGreen, called “Why My Husband and I Sometimes Have Sex With Other People”. I’m often fascinated by polyamory – when a couple choose to have more than one sexual and/or romantic partner. I think I’m drawn to the psychology of it. Not just the ability of a partner to put their ego aside and embrace the sharing of their partner, but also the desire to choose that relationship format in the first place… I think it takes an intimate understanding of…
The Universe Talks. As I sit to finish this article today, the Note From The Universe I received this morning is sitting in the forefront of my mind… Doesn’t it happen like that, Jasmin? I mean, isn’t your entire life proof? One day you’re scrimping, the next you’re in the money. One day you’re lonely, the next you have friends. Lost, then found. Ill, then well. Low, then high. Yet with hindsight, it becomes ever so clear that the only thing that ever really changed was your thinking. Even though you were free to think as you pleased the entire…
If you weren’t an actor or [insert chosen entertainment professional title here], who would you be? Take away the acting classes, the Casting Director workshops, the agent submissions, the cattle calls, the click and submitting, the auditions, the headshot sessions and retouching, the monologue-ing (yes, I just made that a verb). Even the time you’re not actually actively doing these things, you’re thinking about them, talking about them, otherwise being consumed by them. Strip all of that away, and what’s left? In the absence of all the actor related “stuff”, who are you? It’s a question that I’ve contemplated in…
Those of you have been following my articles since the beginning know that this all started with a dream. A declaration to make a film in Europe during a (most) expenses paid trip in the fall of 2015. The opportunity to be in Europe landed in my lap and I knew I needed to seize it and create something spectacular with it, regardless of how much declaring it scared me! The trip came about because my boyfriend, AJ, booked a job performing with a New York based theater company who was invited to perform at one of the largest theaters…